It really is not. Gain their confidence and ask them how they go about making personal decisions. You will find most adhere to libertarian principles, they are just afraid of ostracism if they speak freely about it. Be careful though, this is dangerous. Never betray them or they will regress. By betray I mean don’t go around saying so and so agrees with me what is wrong with you. This will put them in the position of sacrificing themselves, or sacrificing you. You will be sacrificed and that will justify their false logic.