<quote_user=“Consultant”>AJ, what did you discover about relationships?
Basically that everything I’d ever learned or heard was wrong, and that there are many types of easy ways to get whatever kind of relationship you want with just about whomever you want, very quickly (hours or minutes), if you’re reasonably brave and have some basic knowledge and understanding. I suppose that sounds like a parlor trick of sorts, but it’s a game-changer as far as how one looks at that part of one’s life. Men who understand female desire (and women who understand male desire) have such a tremendous advantage that it’s just, well, gratuitous. Unfortunately, there are still not that many who do, or they understand some parts but have learned other distracting elements that are counterproductive.
It’s kind of like how everyone knows deep in their core that politics is a rotten, dirty business, and if they didn’t know all the other stuff they think they know, they’d be inclined to say, “Let’s ditch this politics thing altogether!” In other words, they’d reach the right answer. But there are too many other things distracting them.
With male-female interactions, both men and women are exposed to absolutely awful “advice” and suggestive content in magazines, movies, sitcoms, and even from friends and family (although way more for men than women). When you realize a few episodes of That 70s Show (random example; nothing against the show) internalized by a young impressionable male is enough to ruin his chances of ever finding and keeping a really compatible, satisfying partner…forever, if they get no better guidance - and most don’t…you can see that this isn’t really a laughing matter. I’ve seen the casualties of this time and time again, all over the place.
The flipside is that, routinely, a few well-chosen words are enough to change people’s lives. I don’t know how many emails I’ve gotten from people a few months after I fired off a quick mail to them where they were asking me how they can get this one girl, saying I literally changed their life. Yeah they never get that one girl, but they always get other better ones. So for me it really underscored how amazingly important education can be.
And in relationships, just like in political thinking, it’s mostly about exploding myths, rather than teaching anything in particular. Most guys just have so many wrongheaded notions about women and about the state. Like John Hasnas says, the argument for anarchy is obvious: just look around. Take off the blinders, cast off the mysticism, and it’s not hard to see the truth.
Which set of myths is more deeply ingrained? Hard to say. In both cases people invest a lot emotionally into their beliefs being right, to the point where they actually start to think of their political orientation (and their philosophy on the opposite sex) as part of their identity. And they always think their view is so unique, but to the anti-statist/seductionist it’s utterly typical and predictable, cut straight out of the usual molds from popular coverage of these topics where they just pick and choose a few meaningless variables (like wedge issues) and think they now have a very special stance on the matter.
One thing though, there are many more pickup artists (and I’m limiting it to actual successful ones) than there are anti-statists, and that was true even before the seduction education boom that started ten years ago. Hopefully that will change with the nascent education boom here at LvMI.
Most people conclude that - absent arrangement - polygamous unions would never happen but that’s downright silly. Biologically speaking, we have always been polygamous (one individual reproducing with more than one other individual) and I think, over generations, humanity is only going to become more polygamous* than it has ever been in the past.