Many threads bring up questions about the relationship of a child to the rest of the world; what type of “rights” they have, how they are governed, how the “code”/“law” of the system in question treats them, etc. Many threads debate on and on about the “proper way” it would operate under said system, or the utter grotesque failures of the system in question, and then go on to offer a better system which will then usually get shown the grotesque ends of that system.
The truth is though, with one exception; no matter which system you wish to operate under, there will always be grotesque results and wonderful success stories (assuming it is a system with a decent amount of population and some longevity). There are simply too many people, too many opinions, and too many possibilities for this not to happen. There is no possible way one system is good for all.
The reason is simple, no matter what system is offered it’s just - a system. As humans are many and unique a system is one and inflexible. Such a willingness to embrace such a conforming system will inevitably lead to some awful results.
What is the one system that isn’t barbaric? It is “your own”, as you are the ultimate judge of right or wrong. If you obey any other system (and have the power not to) and witness something barbaric and do nothing about it, you are a slave to a system and actually do not care too much about the child you feel is in need.
Fortunately though I think there are some things most of us can take some comfort in if we care about the “for the children” approach, while I do not claim anything I list equals right or leads to the ultimate truth, we do have tools:
-We can look at other primates and mammals and their relationship w/ the young
-Look at biology and developmental psych
-look at history in general
- look to our own personal experiences, philosophies, trials, and tribulations
After that I think we can also depend on a sort of “conformity of good intuition”; meaning that most people do not wish to treat children in a “barbaric and unfair” fashion, and this “intuition” is roughly congruent enough with most people to not cause massive homeostatic trauma to ones environment.
Also I think ALL anarchists could take comfort in the fact that a massively decentralized society leads to much more chances in diversity, opportunity, personalization, and customization for the role and fate of an individual within a society and the ability to act on your own system within your environment