I used to be an ardent, non-violent voluntarist, but gave it up largely because of the difficulty I had in reconciling the principles of anarchism and the duty to educate children.
As a teacher, I am constantly manipulating, threatening, and cajoling students to do what I want. Moreover, my authority often rests on the other forms of motivation coming from their families.
I hate it when teachers talk and behave as if students should listen to them simply because they happen to be “teachers”, although I have certainly told a wise-ass or two in class that that was all the justification I needed to do whatever it was I was going to do. Not only does it just irritate the hell out of me, but it is positively counter-productive. I have always believed that a teacher has a responsibility to inspire the students as much as possible, but the space for that inspiration could never occur without some sort of coercion.
From my perspective, the vast majority of my students like and respect me and, more importantly, feel stronger and more confident in themselves after having taken my classes, in addition to having laid down the groundwork to be able to learn by, and think for, themselves. Since I live and work in an Asian country (which relies to a great degree on authority and a kind of scholasticism or, when feeling “progressive”, on letting students run amok), most students, especially the relatively younger ones, appreciate this and respond to it enthusiastically. But, I do not kid myself into believing that the majority would not rather be at home playing whatever computer games they have. And even apart from that, I know, even if they don’t, that I am deliberately pushing buttons like “shame”, “pride”, “humor”, “fear”, etc to get them where I think they need to be in terms of their attitude and focus.
I even use collective punishment and rewards on occasion, and used at the right time, even in the slightest degree, it can work wonders. Sometimes, it is the only idea I have left to get through to a student, and that’s usually when it works best for some reason.
When my interest in voluntarism was most intense (about ten years ago), I used to write to Lew Rockwell and others to inquire about this kind of thing (among others), but never could get a decent answer, but now with the existence of forums, I wonder if somebody else hasn’t solved this riddle.
It seems to me that in the world that we live in, one has a duty (moral, biological, whatever) to educate one’s children and to use any number of means to coerce them towards that end–and I believe whether it is carrots or sticks, it is coercion. But, if children require coercion, why can’t that be extended to adults, and if that is the case, doesn’t it simply become a political or pragmatic question as to the combination, degree, and timing of inducements and punishments?
The only way I can see around my objections to anarchism on this point is to reject any kind of obligation to educate one’s progeny, either because there is no such obligation on the part of the adult or because it is unnecessary for the child. Although I hate to argue from “realism”, neither of those possibilities seems plausible to me. Some have argued that one gets one’s “rights” upon becoming an adult, but that seems a rather arbitrary standard. What is it about adulthood that permits one these “rights”? How does one know what an “adult” is?