The threat of violence has to occur in the minds of the parties involved. If it does not, regardless of whether or not it was a possibility, it is not a threat of violence. If I were to threaten you, it would have to occur to me to threaten you. Just because you see it as a possibility in your disputes does not mean it is the case that other people even realize it is a possibility in their own disputes.
Just because you threaten your girlfriend with violence when she wants to watch a different tv show than you does not mean that I threaten my girlfriend with violence. In fact, I do not threaten my girlfriend with violence over tv shows. It does not even occur to me that I could beat her up over what tv show to watch…You may wish to impose upon your girlfriend in such a manner, but I feel great pity for your girlfriend that she is in such an abusive relationship.
It would also appear you don’t know much about law or what God thinks either, yet you still make known to us your opinions.
As I stated above, money is commonly accepted indirect medium of exchange. At what point does something become money? At what point does it cease to be money?
It’s the same thing with words. We know the meanings of words based on how people use them. “Gay” used to mean “happy”. Now it means “homosexual”. At what point did it change meanings? Was it after the first homosexual used it to mean homosexual? What about the second? Probably not, because people still would have been using it to mean happy. What about 100,000,000 Americans? Would it have meant that then too? Now nobody uses the word to mean happy. But when did it change?
It’s the same thing with law. No one knows exactly when a law ceases to become law or when something becomes law. We cannot point to the exact moment. But we can know if it is law or if it is not.
From our discussion, it appears that you only value statutory law as law. That is, as long as it’s written down on a piece of paper by someone with enough power, then it is law - even if it is unenforced. The problem here, is that you do not know about common law or customary law, both of which do not fit the definition you provided earlier. Furthermore, I believe that you actually do not know much about the history of common law or customary law, or even what societies/communities have used it or currently are using it today. You would greatly benefit if you were to research other systems of law, because as it stands now, you are very confused as to what law actually is.