Your question assumes we can neatly divide society into that which is “anarchist” on the one hand and that which is “non-anarchist” on the other hand. It’s not that easy. Before we can talk about anarchy, we first need to talk about what government is. A government, in the Weberian/Hoppean tradition, is an organization which operates a territorial monopoly of law and security (in that order). The essence of this organization is the maintenance of a dual legal standard, that is, two sets of laws. In natural order society, there is only one law to which everyone is subject. In statist society (society where governments exist), there is one set of laws for agents of the state and another set of laws for everyone else.
Government in itself is not the problem, government is a symptom of a deeper problem, a social sickness. That sickness is the belief that there ought to be legalized hypocrisy. There ought to be individuals in society permitted to break the rules that everyone else is required to abide by. This is, of course, a superstition. There is no rational basis for such a belief. There is no justifiable action which requires that certain individuals be subject to “special” rules, that is, exempt from the laws that apply to everyone else.
Without a legal double-standard, taxation becomes impossible. Without taxation, there is no government. Taxation is a logically necessary condition for the existence of government.
To get back to your question - why are “anarchist societies” incapable of surviving - I think you are thinking about the issue incorrectly. What we really need to be asking is why are humans so amenable to blatant legal double standards, especially regarding certain familiar sets of behavior - law, national defense, vices, etc.? I am not sure what the answer to this question is. I think Hoppe answers it in part by noting that people want to avoid their financial obligations and overestimate their ability to escape these obligations through participating in a coercive political machine that voids contractual obligations in an “egalitarian” manner, that is, by giving partiality in legal disputes (whether through statutory law or judicial activism) to those who are apparently poorer over those who are apparently richer. The rich, in turn, defend themselves by buying lawyers and lobbyists, ultimately turning the juggernaut of the state to its natural use, expropriation of the politically alienated masses by the politically connected elites.
The idea of rightful government is an childish delusion. “Archy” only exists in your mind so far as you believe in it. If you obey statutory law out of a sense of moral duty rather than a mere prudential calculation of your own interests, you are brainwashed by the system, you are in the Matrix. Law predates the perversion of dual-law (government) and law in the natural order (unitary, competitive, market law) is both morally compelling and prudential. Anyone can see that murder is immoral, illegal and punishable. No one can reasonably explain why I have a legal duty to pay taxes.
Clayton -