I believe this man has captured the essence of the entirety of my philosophy. And I’m not being snarky, I’m completely serious.
To be moral is to make correct choices. What is a correct choice? It cannot be anything other than what makes you happy, that is, what satisfies you. What is satisfying? Well, the answer to this question is strictly particularistic - it depends on who you are at the moment the question is asked and the answer is only valid for you at that moment. The sincerity of your answer is not determined by fervor but by your actions… what you actually choose to do. But the question still remains - what, in general, is satisfying? Is there not one, overriding end - or a small number of overriding ends - that far and away can be said to be the end?
I think the answer is, clearly, yes. There is an overriding end and that end is reproduction. It is higher than reason, higher than virtue, higher than philosophy, higher than science, higher than war and empire, higher than theology, cosmology or any other aspect of human experience. This is not merely an opinion or a prejudice, it is a fact of human nature easily deduced a priori from the logic of biological continuation (reproduction is necessarily the most important telos of any living organism) as well as easily confirmed by the observation of the behavior of any living organism, including humans.
What this means, in practical terms, is that almost every* individual - if he wants to be wise, that is live morally - will order his or her life in line with this fact of his nature. No, that doesn’t mean “everyone should do what Ed Houben is doing”… of course not. For the vast majority of people, it will mean settling down and having a family in the traditional sense. If you don’t have a family, preparing yourself for it is your overriding purpose. It is your summum bonum.
The misanthropes in the video hating on Houben are oozing this anti-human mentality. “He’s doing it for the sex”. Well, OK, would it be more moral if he experienced excruciating pain during the orgasm? This is just a cheap ad hominem. The parting shot is a bit of unsolicited psychoanalysis - he’s doing it for the immortality without intimacy. Why should a particularly conception of intimacy be the cover charge for reproduction (“immortality”). Once again, it’s just another cheap ad hominem.
Houben himself admits, (paraphrase) if you dig into it, yes, you will find ego-maniacs but he is not one. And, clearly, he is not. But he has found his “center”, the ultimate expression of who he truly is inside. Perhaps he isn’t good with intimacy and that’s what made him a good fit for this particular role in the natural order. But my thesis stands: the highest end is reproduction.
To extend the thought even further, we can see that there is a very large mismatch between the social order as-it-is and this “prime directive”, as it were. You only need to look at some of Houben’s customers: lesbians, a bisexual woman and single mothers. He has also assisted traditional couples (including via the natural method!) but the point is that demand for his services is higher than it otherwise would be by virtue of the up-ending of social mores as a result of State subsidy of “alternative” lifestyles, especially single motherhood. Also, state interference in adoption increases demand (lesbian couples have difficulty adopting in Germany).
The deepest cause, I believe, is monogamy. Well, not monogamy… anti-polygamy. In particular, anti-polygyny. In a polygamous society, the demand for Ed’s services would be smaller. Why get pregnant by Ed when you can marry a wealthy, desirable man who already has multiple wives?
At this point, we have to delve into evolutionary psychology to strip the reproductive exchange down to its barest terms - women reproduce with men in exchange for material support. This is true whether women work, whether society is feministic, whether prostitution is legal or illegal; it is true regardless of the legal superstructure that is placed on top of the natural order. It turns out that humans have always been polygynous (not polyandrous). It is part of human nature. And while the plurality of men who reproduce do so with only one woman, the fact of polygyny completely alters the meaning of reproduction for men versus women. Both men and women share in common the preference for a more genetically excellent partner over a less genetically excellent partner. But men have a much wider “range of success or failure” than women do - that is, many more men will die without children than women will die without children. That’s because men are “disposable” from Nature’s point-of-view… sperm is cheap (not costless, but still cheap). And, on the flip side, men can be much more reproductively successful than women can be (no woman could ever have 85 children as Ed has done, at least, it’s only barely become possible in the modern era and would be fantastically expensive).
One of the greatest ills of the modern social order is the demonization of the desire to reproduce outside of certain parameters. Sex has been decontextualized from its end and has been made into an end-in-itself. That’s what Cosmopolitan and racy Super Bowl ads (and most pornography) is all about. Sex for the sake of sex. But if you engage in a little introspection on the nature of sexual pleasure, you will discover that sexual experience is pleasurable in direct proportion to its suitability for reproduction. Stated as bluntly as possible: any form of birth-control makes sex less pleasurable, ceteris paribus.
In men, the primary expression of the desire to reproduce is to sire as many children as possible (ala Ed). On the flip side, for women, the primary expression of the desire to reproduce is to get the best arrangement they can get in exchange for reproducing. There is no necessary “best” or “correct” arrangement which we can determine will emerge from these two facts but I think we should view any aspect of the social order that attempts to attenuate or demonize the frank expression of man’s highest end as anti-human.
What this means, in terms of public policy recommendations, is that governments need to stop obstructing reproduction in whatever way. If two women want to marry one man, so be it. If a lesbian couple wants to receive artificial insemination from Ed, so be it. And so on.
And what it means in terms of individual action is that the wise person - male or female - will orient his or her life around the fact that the deepest satisfaction - the highest end - that can be attained is to reproduce, and the more, the better. You will see children painted as a “cost”, a “hassle”, “more difficulty than benefit” and so on but these are all lies.
To reinforce this point, I think that Nature implants within the mind a massive, almost wholly unreasonable angst about death within the mind of non-parents. As a teenager, I remember feeling awful dread at the thought of dying. The probability of dying as a teenager is lower than in any other age group - you’re solidly past the risks of childhood and you’ve not yet even started to face the risks of aging. And here you are going into a cold-sweat in the middle of the night, biting your nails with worry that you might die. Why? I believe that this is the angst not merely of dying, but of dying without issue. And women experience it, too. The proverbial “biological clock” nearly drives some women mad who defer childbirth into their reproductively older years (30s+). You can either have a child or you can expend your time and energy attempting to exorcise yourself of that angst. Nature cannot be fooled and its insistent voice will not be ignored. As reproduction is the highest end, so the angst that comes from not reproducing is the greatest suffering**.
OK, I’ll close with one qualification. Biologists hold that non-reproductive behaviors (i.e. suicide in defense of the brood) can be selected for by Nature if their effect on the survival of the offspring is in proportion to the genetic relatedness of the individual. For example, if a genetic uncle foregos having one child and thereby enables his sibling to have 2 or more children, this behavior can be selected for by Nature. It is all about reproduction… whether that means being Ed Houben or something else entirely. The key is that the wise individual will assess how his life is contributing to this overriding, ultimate end and will order his life accordingly.
“What we do in life ripples through eternity” - Marcus Aurelius
And you thought I couldn’t possibly get any further out… ![]()
Clayton -
*There are people for whom it is clear that reproduction cannot be their highest end, namely, people who cannot reproduce whether for genetic, developmental or even psychological/emotional reasons.
**ceteris paribus… i.e. I’m not comparing it to cancer.