That’s an understandable criticism, but it’s not utilitarian - in part because utilitarian vs idealistic is another bad dochotomy that slices the problem the wrong way.
Here’s how I look at it, we use logic and observations of the world to figure out a set of principles. Some very small set of those principles, such as non-aggression, are valid in all contexts that pertain to rational agents. Others apply to narrower contexts. They are all absolute within their context. But we can’t reduce those contexts to finer and finer granularity indefinitely - at some point we’re down to a level of detail at which we are dealing with contexts we’ve never seen before. Such as: “it’s pouring down rain and you’re running to catch a bus with your arms full of groceries that you can barely hold on to, and you’re rushing to make a business meeting that will make or break the future of your business. Do you stop to help a little old lady across the street?”
That’s the kind of detail you can never establish principles for. Principles are for contexts that subsume everything you have and are likely ever to experience. What you do is apply the concrete facts of the bus and the rain and the little old lady to the priniciples you have esablished, and see which actions those principles demand, or at least don’t conflict. But you simply can’t have a principle that tells you exactly whether or not to help the old lady.
So it’s not a tightrope, not a conflict between principles and the real world. It’s a matter of finding absolute principles - and, most importantly, knowing the contexts in which they apply - and testing real world actions against them. If priniciples cannot guide real world actions, or if there is a real world context in which they come into conflict whith each other, that means that at least one of those absolute principles is wrong.
For instance, a common libertarian principle is that paying taxes is always wrong, and you should never do it. Another principle, to me at least, is that principles never require dying. Those two obviously conflict, especially when combined with other libertarian principles such as that you should always defend yourself against aggression.
My resolution of that is to abandon the former principle and say that the real principle is I should always defend my life in its entirety against aggression. That means not simply defending my right not to pay taxes now, but also defending my 80-year old self of the future against being dead, in jail, or still paying taxes. It means defending all that is possible to defend now, not worrying about what is not possible to change, and build my life around increasing the scope of what is possible.
It means there are tradeoffs. Everything in life is a tradeoff. If you take a vacation to Paris, it means you’re not vacationing in Tahiti. Principles are absolute, but they provide guidance in how to evaluate those tradeoffs, not black-box formulae to deterministically decide each and every action. It’s neither utilitarian nor idealistic, it’s orthogonal to that dichotomy. (My pet phrase is looking at problems like this “sideways” from the way they are usually approached.)
Nitro, you mention impatience, and that is indeed a major issue - has been for me at least. But I always try to remember that this is about my whole life, not just today and tomorrow. There’s no utopia, and a “free” society will still have problems to solve. The lack of freedom is one that needs solving now, but solving it won’t mean we can just sit back and watch the sunset. Life is about producing value for yourself, and, until you stop trying to do that, that always implies solving problems. Freedom is not, as many libertarians seem to believe, the end of problems, it is a circumstance that allows us greater and more effective means to solve even more important problems.
Sorry if this seems like a repeat of what I wrote before. I think it’s really important, and has opened up a whole world of possibilities and optimism for me, and I’m trying to find a way to communicate what is, at it’s core, an epiphany that everyone really has to reach on their own. Jeez, now I sound like a bible-thumper trying to spread the “good news”…